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"I used to be Snow White, but I drifted."
—Mae West
Boundaries are needed to create a safe relationship, for they define where your life stops and where another life starts. Without boundaries, it is easy for one to feel trampled and disrespected. No one can define your boundaries for you but you. What makes you feel safe, loved, protected, cared for, or violated? The saying “familiarity breeds contempt” can be quite true with marriage, and we often find couples carelessly violating boundaries because of the familiarity and lack of respect for boundaries. There are a variety of boundaries needed in various areas of a relationship: social, spiritual, conflict, sexual, work, and more. In all these areas, it is our responsibility to let our partner know what helps us to feel secure and loved. It is common for partners to take offense with the partner setting the boundary, as if they are “bossing them around” or “telling them what to do”, but in reality, they are being responsible to represent and advocate for themselves. True love means respecting and regarding carefully the boundaries of another. Fear causes us to manipulate, bully, shame, or withhold in order to get what we want. Love demands we respect each other’s boundaries as we speak the truth respectfully to our partner.
TIPS FOR CREATING BOUNDARIES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:
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